What does your root system look like?
Updated: Dec 9, 2019
Does your family have the root system that can nourish and support you in the good times and the bad?
Not long ago I was reading an article about the mighty and majestic redwoods in California. I found out that they grow to over 350 feet tall! One would think that these trees would have a tremendously deep root system to support such tall trees. In fact, the redwood roots only grow down about five and one half feet deep. Their roots may not grow deep, but the root system grows wide and intermingles with the roots of surrounding trees. The trees find nutrition from each other and the intermingling of the roots help hold each other up. No matter what the season, when the rains come, when the wind blows, these trees are there to support each other. An interesting fact is that, one tree in the middle can die and the strength from the surrounding trees will keep it standing in place.
When a family is united together, they can withstand any storm.
I believe this is how families are created to function. This applies to whatever structure or shape of your family. Whether your "family" is your family of origin, several best friends, a committed relationship, a husband and wife, or a new blended family. Your family is there to hold each other up and strengthen and nourish each other not only spiritually but emotionally. When our family is united together, we can withstand any storm of life.
Good relationships are just like these trees. Good relationships are a two way street. You nourish each other when you encourage one another daily. When you find that you need encouragement, that is when you should encourage someone else. One of the ways a family
can strengthen their root system is by having family meetings and even game nights. You form rituals while also giving support and encouragement. These also create opportunities to create goals and share values and symbols; what's important to you and your family.
It's not important that your family agree on every aspect of what is profoundly meaningful to you, but it's important to have a relationship where you are open to each other's most dearly held beliefs.
By creating these times where family can get together while sharing their deepest issues will create a feeling of unity, but don't expect it to occur overnight. This exploration is a lifelong process.
The Magic Six Hours for Families
Here are six things you can incorporate in your daily life each week.
Develop a ritual of making your parting extra special. When you say goodbye, be sure to spend: 2 minutes a day x 5 days a week.
Start the end of each workday with a stress reducing conversation: 20 minutes a day x 5 days a week.
Communicate genuine appreciation for your family members: 5 minutes a day x 7 days a week.
Hug your family: 5 minutes worth each day x 7 days a week.
Schedule a time of play lasting a minimum of: 2 hours long x once a week.
Meet one hour a week to talk about your relationship (Family Meetings): 1 hour x once a week.
This totals 6 hours a week!